Church in our modern day Christian circles teaches us that love is religious. They teach us that the wolves of the world need to be put to good use, and that we just need to serve them as if they are Believers. It is the Big Denial that men who are sexually immoral should be allowed to and pushed to serve the Body of Christ in the church walls.
The problem is that they are first of all, forgetting the Great Shepherd, and secondly, they are endangering the sheep in the fold. Even worse, they sacrifice the vulnerable and the weak with this attitude.
They are not saving the sexually immoral by allowing them to cover up their immorality with religious works.
Recently this happened to us.
This hit home for our family, when after three years of near-bliss, living and giving within a church Body, we had to leave. Because of one man’s sexual immorality and the cover-up by the leadership, we found ourselves in an unsafe situation. Within the church.
In the midst of everyone’s ideas of what it means to serve special needs children, my son’s needs were lost in the shuffle of it. He asked me why they continued to let this man not only near us, but to actually serve in the church. And my finally had enough, when once again, the man stalked him around the church. And, I can’t say that I really blame him. I don’t.
You see, we were being stalked at church.
We were stalked by a man whom they let into the church, and then gave a position of authority. He attempted to seduce me, and when that didn’t work, he began to stalk my special needs son, following him all around the church. The problem peaked when he forced my son to take a $10 bill from him. I tried speaking to the authorities within the church, but all they did was push the secret under the rug.
Honestly, if I had reported him to the police (I didn’t have his last name), what would he have done? Tracked us down at our home? Plus, we actually have police security in our church, and they were making it official. Where were they? We were abandoned on all fronts, except by God.
A Christ-centered church would not have supported his sickness.
They say they follow Christ, but real Christians do not condone this behavior. A healthy church would not have promoted him to service in the church. Further, they would have protected a mother and her child, coming to church every week, alone. They knew us.
Why would they all of a sudden trust a man who walks in the church like that? But this is the lack of real love that has pervaded the church. The church, not just just ours, seems to be lacking in real love. Their vision (not the Holy Spirit’s) has become so distorted that they label wolves as sheep and sheep as wolves.
A safe church trust God’s plan of love as the center, then follows the Holy Spirit as an outflow of that Love. First and foremost, God must be on the throne of their lives every day, and with everything they do.
The Church needs real love in its walls.
Men like our stalker, are so ill that they need to be pushed up against their immorality. They need to be turned over to Satan for the destruction of their flesh. The Church needs to really stand firm in the Word of God, but their viewpoint has become tainted by legalism.
We learned that when our human systems fail us, all we can do is trust God for justice.
There is grace for everyone who repents before God and accepts Christ.
Yet, instead of promoting wolves, we should:
- Love as brothers and sisters of the heart, not accepting adultery, abuse and fornication.
- Look at the heart of a person before we hold their history to a stick of legalism.
- Bind the wounds of the brokenhearted and the sick, without judgement.
- Care for widows and orphans (yes, the divorced are in that category).
- Love each other as members of the Body of Christ, instead of religious lifestyle standards.
- Accept the redeemed as the Body of Christ no matter how they look.
- Allow all who have a proven, God-given talent are called to serve, not just the legalistic few.
Real love follows Christ and the leading of the Holy Spirit, not religious rules of the “perfect” few.
How can we start the change?